Sex, Glitter and Falling in love with your Best Friend.

As the Goddess of Love and affection, I feel it is only fitting for my first post to be softer, loving and with the purpose of setting the scene for my thoughts and opinions, by sharing an insight to my own love story.

I’ll apologise in advance for the lack of juice, glitter and SEX, but hopefully I’ll make up for it in making your heart melt a little, resonating with a few of your own experiences and hopefully encouraging someone out there to make the move.

Now if you’re reading this blog, I’m guessing you’re old enough to have learnt that life is full of the unexpected, but one of the most unexpected things that most of us experience must truly be love. The feeling that pulls you in, makes you question all of your thoughts and feelings and sends you absolutely insane. Love can be sitting there, glistening like that beautiful Naked 2 Pallete that you take for granted every single day, never fully appreciating the deep sparkles it brings into your life. We can be so wrapped up in the small details, that we become completely oblivious to some of the things right infront of us.

I took a step away from life, and looked deep into the sparkly eyes of my best friend. And I fell in love.

We all have that friend, who’s there for you, who listens to you, and laughs at you. Time is so easily spent, talking aimlessly and laughing. They’re there to dance with on a night out, or cuddle with after the night. You can talk every day, or not talk for 2 months. You’re simply happy to be together, lulling through life together, as you tell him all about the new rugby boy, or he watches you get hurt by the next ‘BNOC’ who everyone knows is sleeping with a new girl every week. People think you’re dating, and all your friends make jokes about when you’re going to end up together. You both just idly brush it off, laughing some more at the insanity of those around you. The possibly of you two being together is not plausible in either of your minds, in fact it’s so implausible that it becomes a running joke.

Then this moment arrives, where you’re thrown in the air, like a pile of glitter that can never quite be collected again. You want to spend more time together. You start paying attention to the cheesy grin, the jokes that fall off his tongue. You feel the tightness of the hug, and realise that you smile a little bit more whenever he’s around.

Things move slowly, you’re in denial and your mind doesn’t quite know what to do. You want to protect yourself, and most importantly your friendship, because over the years this person has become the most important thing to you. You’re both awkward, as neither of you could possibly accept the fact that your joke may no longer be a joke… You explore boundaries, spending nights cuddled up become awkward yet yearned for. Skin to skin contact gives you goosebumps and you have no idea what to do- It’s your best friend who you're so used to being around, yet theres a sense of a stranger. Nevertheless you want to be together, so you lay there, wanting to be together, and feeling so overwhelmingly awkward and comfortingly uncomfortable.

At some point, someone breaks (Holy S*** it was the most exhilarating thing I have ever decided to do!). And it seems completely insane that you have gone through such a period of worry and insanity. How did you live as just friends? Without the intimacy and undeniable passionate love? Your friends laugh. Some find it strange. There will no doubt be some complications, anxiety and worries about loosing someone so close to you in the beginning, but then you realise you have never loved someone this way, and you can never love someone more than your lover and your best friend.

How we, as humans, can float through life with love on the tips of our noses, I will never understand.

I fell in love with my best friend.

I will never be able to put into words how special it is. It is one of the most challenging and effortless experiences to go through. Because I knew my dear loving Hermes before we were together, when we actually came to realise our love, we wanted to rush into everything- we do want to rush into everything. I would marry him today if I could. But I don’t have to worry about that, because I know that he will be around, with me, growing, living and loving with me for a very very long time to come. Falling in love with your best friend takes the pressure off ‘getting to know someone’ and slowly unveiling your weird quirks to someone new, because they already know and love you unconditionally. It provides comfort and security that you don't find in a new relationship. He is still my best friend, and he is loved and treated as my best friend, my partner in crime, my other half and my god. The only difference in our life now is that I don’t love him, I am in love with him.

Love from Aphrodite xox

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